This article originally appeared on [VICE Serbia](Illustrations by Darija Basta)Stepping into your 40s is a shock to many because of the harsh realization that even if your brain is still in its prime, your body is not. For some, the only way to keep an illusion of youth is to cheat the body into thinking it can work via illegal substances that can only harm it in the long run. And so a vicious cycle begins.It's really hard to tell when the party is over but, sometimes, it's even harder to find your way home. We spoke to high-functioning drug users who are in their 40s about their vices and how these may have affected their lives.
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Misha, 42
I was a successful professional on the outside and a ticking time bomb on the inside. In bed one morning, I suddenly felt like I couldn't breathe. I started getting heart cramps and one arm felt stiff. I'd heard that must mean I was having a stroke. I panicked and the only thing I could think to do was to take a Xanax. When I finally did see a doctor, he prescribed pills and gave me strict instructions to slow down with my lifestyle. In short—to stop using cocaine.I don't regret the money I've wasted on cocaine, but I do regret what it has done to my health.
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It was a real struggle. By that time, I was already separated from my family and would spend my days in deadly apathy. I kept going to work but faltered, because I lost my energy level. Sometimes I'd do another tiny bump, just to get over my bouts of depression.My sons are almost grown now, and I've never mustered the courage to talk openly about drugs to them, possibly because I haven't been able to kick the habit entirely myself. I still occasionally feel the urge to take another bump, whatever the consequences. But I manage to stay away most of the time. If I was an honest man, I'd tell my kids that coke is an addictive drug—mostly because of what you can do and how you feel when you are on it without much of an effort. And that I'd take it again, despite the price I've paid. Not the financial price—I don't regret that—but I do regret what it has done to my health.""Being their only child, I grew up as my mom and dad's little princess. We always went on ski trips and exotic holidays abroad, I had all the clothes and toys I could dream of—I had everything. Despite my parents spoiling me, I was also a great student and never really misbehaved. They trusted me so I was given unlimited freedom, which I never abused.The people I hung out with were beautiful, fashionable, and always drunk. The fact that this bored me to no end didn't make me look for a different crowd. I wasn't one of them but I certainly wasn't one of any other group, either. That changed the night I met the love of my life at one of these boring parties. He was arrogant and very open about his resentment for everybody there, but for some reason, he spared me and won me over. He was smart and fearless, and at some point in the night, he offered me a bump of a yellowish-white powder, wrapped in tinfoil. He showed me how to snort it, I did, and I immediately felt an urge to barf. I managed to control myself though, because a lady doesn't throw up.
Vesna, 45
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He asked me whether I liked it and I had to admit I did. 'It's heroin,' he said. I tried it again, and again, and again. But true love for heroin grows only when you shoot it—which I started doing a few months later. In the years that followed, we traveled the world, stayed in fancy hotels, took hit after hit. We loved each other and never fought, but there was one difference between us—I knew when to stop but he never had enough.Then our daughter was born. We considered whether or not to have her, but my parents jumped in and convinced me to keep the baby. I never wanted the fun to end, but it did when my husband overdosed and died. That was when I realized that I needed to take responsibility for our daughter and started my own accountancy business. For a while, heroin helped me run it with an unclouded mind. But the care for my daughter and the realization that my health was ruined brought me to my senses. I joined a rehabilitation program based on methadone, so I'm still on drugs—only legally.I've kept my past and present from my daughter. She seems to come from a different world than the one I've spent such a big part of my life in: She doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, and avoids anyone who uses weed recreationally. She would probably freak out if she knew about my drug use—or she simply wouldn't believe it.I exercise now. My health is my priority, for my daughter's sake. I don't regret anything I've done, but I'd die if my daughter chose to live her life the way I did."I never wanted the fun to end, but it did when my husband overdosed.
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Maja, 46
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I don't use cocaine any more. Looking back, it frightens me that it took me so little time to become completely obsessed with it. It was so easy to get hooked, I should never think I'm completely over it.""I started smoking weed recreationally in high school. I didn't smoke every day—except maybe sometimes during the summer or winter holidays. At times I wouldn't smoke for months—because I wouldn't have money or because I'd have exams. These days, I'm the same: I like smoking weed but I don't go crazy if I don't have any. I don't call a dealer anymore—I feel I'm too old for that, or to buy rolling paper in a shop. I'd be embarrassed. My friends do it, and I chip in.Now that I'm older, I don't mind paying a bit more for my drugs, and I'm more cautious. I use them in my flat, never outside. I like to experiment though—I like seeing what different kinds of drugs do to me in different circumstances or quantities. I'm not a junkie or a stoner.My job has some aspects that don't require my full attention, so I'll sometime smoke a joint when I'm waiting for something to be finished or doing some basic research.I did a lot of ecstasy, LSD, and speed in my rave days, but when I got bored with that subculture I also got tired of those drugs. I'd love to take acid again but this time somewhere peaceful—in a park with my friends, or watching a meteor shower on the beach.
Now that I'm older, I don't mind paying a bit more for my drugs, and I'm more cautious. I use them in my flat, never outside.
Nikola, 40
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I tried cocaine for the first time in my late 20s, and the possibilities of the drug intrigued me. But coke is way too expensive for me. When I was younger, you'd only take coke when there was a very special party, but now it seems like a daily ritual for a lot of people—something you take naturally if you go out drinking. Ten years ago, someone offering you a line would be like them giving you a fancy birthday present—these days in the bars I visit, everybody goes to the bathroom together for a bump. I guess it's a drug I could easily get used to if I had enough money, so it's a good thing that at 40, I'm still kinda broke.""Over the years, I've sporadically taken cocaine and amphetamines—always recreationally, at parties and clubs. I quit doing that once I realized that nothing good ever happened to me while under the influence. It's a fake, purposeless euphoria. Once you consume some, you just want more and doing more drugs becomes the purpose of doing drugs. The problem for me is not the comedown the next day—it's my bad conscience for having spent so much money on such a poor experience.But if I was given the option to go back in time and erase my experiences of experimenting with drugs, I'd probably wouldn't. I'm just very curious. I'd do less drugs though, and less often. I'd start later in life and stop sooner.I have been very open about my drug use with my children. My advice was that it's never too late to try. But whatever you do, you have to do it sensibly and with moderation. If you don't, your life becomes vulgar."If you or someone you know needs help with drug addiction, you can contact one of the resources below:Alcoholics Anonymous - (212) 870-3400Narcotics Anonymous - (818) 773-9999 x771Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Services - (800) 356-9996National Association for Children of Alcoholics - 1-888-554-2627