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Women, you are not signing up for an online dating site so that you can find compatible men to interact with on your own terms. You are there to act like a puppy in an animal shelter, making cute puppy eyes at passersby and waiting to be chosen.

How are you undermining your chances at “traditional happiness”? What desperate, pathetic actions are you unwittingly taking online, causing men to flee from your neediness? The authors of The Rules have written a new book, Not Your Mother’s Rules, a lady’s etiquette handbook for the Twitter, Facebook, and text message generation. Many men and women wake up one day and realize they’re interested in meeting someone. But we can’t always will a willing partner into our lives at any given moment using the more traditional methods of bars and friends of friends, so many people go online to increase their odds of meeting someone special.

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Authors Ellen Fein and Sherie Schnieder gave an interview that is definitely not a joke with Jdate.com, an online dating site for Jewish singles. Ellen and Sherie helpfully offer advice on the phenomenon of modern women chasing men like they’ve chased their careers: “Men have a type/look and love a challenge, so it is a waste of time and doesn’t work whether you are in 1950, 1990, or 2012.” This stance presupposes that essentially nothing about relationship gender roles has changed since 1950.

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