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The Best Beginner's BDSM Gear for (Literal) Cuffing Season

Strap down for the winter with these beginner’s gags, restraints, and spanking sex toys.
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New York, US
November 9, 2021, 5:49pm
BDSM sex toys including handcuffs and rope
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We’ve been feeling especially bored and horny under these North Face puffers lately. The days are growing shorter, and the nights are growing longer, harder, and faster; our situationships are getting solidified for the impending winter hermitage, and our lube pantry is getting stocked to the heavens for prostate play. Nigh are the days of popping out from our electric blanket for bodega runs, takeout, or catching a glimmer of Sunny D on our skin to keep away the SAD (seasonal affective disorder). We’re ready to turn into full BDSM (Big Daddis and Skanky Mammis) dungeon lords this winter, and we’re looking for kinky sex toys to help. Luckily, Lovehoney is offering 20% off beginner’s BDSM accessories right now, so we can load up on all the Hail Mary sex toys. 

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If you’re new to BDSM, willkommen. The acronym actually stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism, and it offers a whole oyster tray of fun for you and your partner(s) to explore now that summer is dead, and we’re no longer slug-trailing across the city. No, we’re a little more keen on holing up with our hunny of the week, finding a safe word, and getting spanked by the space heater. 

Of course, it’s crucial to do your research, listen to your partner’s and your bodies’ needs, and find out which areas of BDSM really twist your nips, as it were. It’s also half the fun: Go dabble in a bit of temperature play, or cop enough silk restraints for a champion ribbon dancer; find a choker for your balls, or a sperm stopper that you can repurpose for corking that *muah* great Napa vintage. BDSM encompasses a whole Crockpot of sex toys and fetishes that can take you from the medical (like the Wartenberg Wheel), to the earthy (figging, a.k.a. anal plugging with ginger) and beyond. Polish your pleather, and let’s stock up on some classic accessories for (literal) Cuffing Season.  

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Start with a blindfold

Whether you’re riding Ds or getting Zs, a blindfold is a great thing to have on-hand (and over eyes) in the bedroom. 

Soft restraints 

Yes, it’s literally just ribbons on ribbons. That’s the joy of silky restraints. Handcuffs are cool and all, but there’s something so nice about the ease with which you can use and store these babies, which will take up about as much space as a sock and a great gateway toy into more ~hardcore~ bondage tools.   

Lovehoney

Silky Black Bondage Restraints (4 Pack)

Long live Cuffing Season 

Told you they were cool. Unbound Babes makes some of the vibiest sex toys and handcuffs out there, from a flexible silicone set to a blue handcuff set with adjustable, belt-style straps—meaning, no loseable keys—that are also designed to be used hanging from a door. (We love a multi-tasking, multi-level toy.) 

Unbound Babes

Cuffies Flexible Silicone Handcuffs

Unbound Babes

Orion Over the Door Restraint Set

Go to Spank Town 

We’re partial to the ol’ bushel of twigs and the maypole, but we also enjoy a furry paddle. It’s also a softer intro to spanking than a lot of the paddles with cutouts or electric currents

Bondage Boutique

Furry Spanking Paddle

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Nipple stimulation

Nipple play isn’t just Gorilla Glue and Husky clamps, my sweet lumbersexual. You might want to start out a little softer, with some silicone nipple suction cups, before graduating to intense nipple clamps.  

Lovehoney

Colorplay Color-Changing Silicone Nipple Suckers

A choker for your balls

Are your balls going to a Seattle rave circa 1997? Great. 

Blue Line

PVC Ball Stretcher 1.5 Inches

You are Seabiscuit

When it comes to beginner gags, you can use the same silky restraints from above, opt for a gag with a smaller ball (like a hot baby seal), or try a silicone gag bar that’s easier to bite down on.

Bondage Boutique

Beginners Small Ball Gag

Unbound Babes

Bit Silicone Gag Bar

Learn about Japanese bondage

Known as kinbaku or shibari, the Japanese art of getting tied up will turn you into a skilled, horny rope-slinger who can make better knots than a seafaring ghost (but that’s knot why you’ll be moaning). Start off by using your rope as a simple restraint, then dive into more intricate knots with the help of author Kenji Takada’s beginner’s guide to the practice. 

NS Novelties

Bondage Couture Rope

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Kenji Takada

Shibari for Beginners

The whole smorgasbord 

Welcome to the 20-piece drum set—the full BDSM kit for beginners that will keep you busy until springtime, because it’s packed with ropes, clamps, plugs, dildos, spiky wheels, floggers, and more. Put it all in a piñata, and make your beloved spank the goods out. 

Lovehoney

All You Need Bondage Kit (20 Piece)

Here’s to storing those nuts for the winter. 


The Rec Room staff independently selected all of the stuff featured in this story.