Xavier Lalanne-Tauzia
Welcome to Coping, Episode Fifteen.
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Q: When I'm anxious about something, how can I focus on what I'm actually upset about and not the other extra things that my mind tries to grip onto?
This is somewhat of a "perfect" scenario, but incredibly common. Try it right now with yourself or a friend, and see how far you get. You'll eithera) realize the root goes deeper than the "extra things" your mind joins in on or b) you'll realize it's something very simple that need not cause anxiety or take more of your precious time, and you'll be able to move on more quickly."Why?"
"Because she hasn't talked to me in a week and that is unlike us. It's making me anxious."
"Why?"
"Because she's important to me and I don't want her to be upset with me."
"Why?"
"Well I of course don't want someone upset with me. Nobody does."
"Why?"
"Because the friendship might end over nothing, and I would hate to lose her."
"Why?"
"Because I've lost other people in my life and that is the worst feeling."
"Why?"
"Because I start to feel like I might end up alone if I don't do everything right."
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Happy holidays, everyone.
