A housing advice column for all your renting problems from VICE UK columnist Vicky Spratt. Got a burning question? Email lifeforrent@vice.com.
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I started timing myself in the shower. I showed her my bank account so she could see how I was paying the bills and not, as she suspected, stealing her money. I even started sleeping with the blind open so I wouldn’t need to use an alarm clock and risk waking her up.Then I remembered something that my mum once told me. I’m paraphrasing, but it went something like this: “When someone is being a dick to you, it’s usually because they’re unhappy.”People love to project. We all do it. It’s cheaper than therapy and a hell of a lot easier than facing yourself in the mirror. Your neighbours, I would put money on it, are also doing it.Babies are great, brilliant, amazing etc. but life with them can be hard. Very hard. I don’t have any of my own but I know plenty of people who do. You’re no longer in complete control. Sleep becomes scarce. Your life is no longer entirely your own for, well, 18 years minimum.
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I’m speculating, sure. What I do know is this: you’re whispering, you’re hardly moving, you’re not wearing shoes. But that’s unsustainable – you can’t live your life as a gesture of goodwill. Your question was, “do you have any advice on our rights in this scenario?” I do. You have the right to live in your flat, to breathe, talk, shag, walk around and even – ffs – play music! You have done nothing wrong.You could raise it with your landlord. Could they insulate the floor, for instance? Some acquaintances of mine recently managed to make this happen. (In fairness, they were about to be evicted because of noise pollution – they think their flat is London’s answer to Berghain.)There is no specific law for your neighbourly friction. So first I think you should go in gently; lean into their negativity with compassion. Counteract it with kindness. Take your neighbours some flowers. Hell, take them flowers and a bottle of wine. Knock on their door (at a reasonable hour in the early evening so you’re not waking the kids). Say you’re so sorry you got off on the wrong foot and that you’d like to fix it. Ask them where the noise is coming from, explain that you’re doing your best to be as quiet as a mouse – if not quieter – and try to engage them in a friendly and pragmatic conversation about solutions.
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You have several options here, and – full disclosure – they carry varying degrees of risk. You could slide into the grey area that borders on Against the Rules territory by signing the incorrect contract delivered to you by this bumbling agent, hoping that nobody spots the error, pay the old amount and be prepared to argue your case should it ever come up.Sorry to be a bore, but I wouldn’t advise this. If you have exchanged emails about the new amount these could come back to bite you and your agency might argue that you’ve been accruing rent arrears when your landlord inevitably finds out they’ve messed up. Any monthly savings you might make could cost you far more in the long run. The incorrect contract, if signed, would be binding – but this course of action could also lead to you being forced to move out of this two-bedroom safe haven. Don’t forget, Section 21 evictions have not yet been abolished so your landlord wouldn’t even have to give a reason to evict you.We so often talk about housing situations as letting agent and landlord versus tenant. It’s combative, we know that there is a power imbalance and, sometimes, those who wield that power do so unscrupulously.But, ultimately, housing exchanges are about relationships and you must preserve yours if you want to continue living in this flat. Trust and honesty are the bedrock of any relationship. You can’t stop your landlord “causing problems”, but you can make sure everything you do is by the book, just in case you ever need to go through an official complaints procedure.In that spirit, you could question the incorrect amount and use it as an opportunity to attempt to resist the rent rise or negotiate it down. At this point, it would be rather short notice to find new tenants and, well, you never know. You might get lucky. At worst, you’ll end up having to stick a rent rise it sounds like you’ve already agreed to and can afford. The choice, reader, is yours.@Victoria_Spratt