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Aniruddha Mahale
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‘Grindr is for the gays!’ any non-gay identifying queer person would scream at you a party—but that’s where Delta swoops in and saves the day. Serving the entire spectrum of sexuality (apart from the obvious heterosexuals), it’s the most woke (queer dating) app there is—with only one motive.To find you your one true love.‘Would I want to meet and date amazing singles from the community?’ it prods me, as soon as I download the app. Well, considering I am an ‘amazing single from the community’, what do I have to lose? I dive right in. The interface is colourful and easy to use—but that doesn’t mean you should let your four-year-old nephew use it. There are currently two ways to meet singles near you: a simple ‘Match’ feature or the recently introduced 'Discover' mode, which lets you join groups (read: chat rooms) of like-minded individuals. Find your needle in the haystack? Send them a spark and hit them right up with a DM.DISCLAIMER: Since I made my profile months before the app rolled out a new update, I am slightly clueless about the signing up process—but the gist remains the same. There’s a stringent five-step verification (including sending in a selfie, because Black Mirror has really changed the way we look at ourselves) and a compatibility quiz (of 12 questions) that makes it ‘easier’ to find you your future plus one.
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Delta’s compatibility feature is a breath of fresh air, pairing people based on common interests, and things that actually matter such as their expectations from a long-term partner and their views on a long-distance relationship, rather than their preferences in bed.While this Disney-style method of matchmaking is important, there’s one major loophole: People lie on their compatibility tests just like they like in their resumes. So the off chance that the attractive architect who told you he believes in monogamous relationships is actually lying? As high as a groupie at an EDM concert afterparty.What I don’t like about it
Like all the men I’ve ever dated (or mated), Delta is extremely promising. An app that understands that the future is fluid? Hell, yes. An interface that highlights a calendar full of LGBTQIA+ events and inclusive-brands? Here are my credit card details. A special Discover mode which lets you talk to people who share the same interests (and pop culture references) as you do? I’m looking for my chequebook right now. But the icing on the cake: a safe space to be (and love) queer? SIGN ME UP ALREADY.
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If, like me, you are tired of every other dating app in the world, then you should swing the doors wide open for Delta. If the app were a boy, I’d casually ask him out for a date because I find him (and his ideas) ‘interesting’. I’d pile him with wine and sweet nothings. I’d watch him endearingly as he tells me about all his passions (and there are a lot of them) with a twinkle in his eye. I’d kiss him good night at the front door, and thank him for a lovely night.But would I see him again? I think I’d stick to Grindr.
Eeshita Chinmulgund
The little compatibility test that they have you take allows you to compare your answers to those whose profiles you're seeing, so there's a lot you know about them already. I loved how out-and-proud people on Delta were. I wish we could check out their social media through the app, but I'm sure they have their own reasons to not implement that here. The fact that you can't take a screenshot is really cool; at least the app developers had the users' safety in mind.
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There still is a lot of prejudice on the app though, surprisingly. I saw a group for people who liked 'threesomes', but they weren't cool with gay people joining in, which is kinda sad. I think one of the downsides of a lot of the LGBTQAI+ members coming out in the open about their sexuality, is that they now might have issues with someone who's still in the closet. While I don’t see it as a problem, a number of my matches actively reject profiles of those who are still not out. And since you can answer that about yourself, I guess, in a way they're saying that they won't accept a person until they're out, which, for me is… not cool. I had some interesting conversations but couldn't take anything forward. Most conversations started off with the usual, 'Hello, hi, where are you from, what do you do,’ etc. Most conversations with the men went the way they’d go on Tinder. I'm not one to ask too many questions if they happened to be bi. I didn't match with any trans member, surprisingly. With the women, I think the closest I got to someone was discussing coming out because I asked her (her answer to the questionnaire was that she wasn't okay with her partner being in the closet).The final takeaway
Honestly, for me, other than that, not much was out of the ordinary. Most conversations lasted three days and didn't lead anywhere. Apart from these few elements, my experience was pretty alright.UPDATE: This story has been updated to include developments.The views and opinions expressed in this piece are those solely of the interviewees, and do not necessarily reflect the position of VICE.Follow Aniruddha Mahale and Eeshita Chinmulgund on Instagram.