Come up with some fun alternative plans, and know that drilling your relatives with objectively true facts might not be the most effective route here.
It might be tempting to put this decision off until the last minute, but there are lots of good reasons not to go, and you shouldn't feel guilty.
The events of this year have made it hard to ignore massive differences in core values.
When we shrink our lives down to bubbles and pods, we lose access to the low-stakes connections that are good for our well-being. Here's how to fix that.
It feels like apathy and despair about democracy are at an all-time high right now, but this is the exact moment when it's most important not to give up.
It can be hard to know the best response when jokes and cries for help sound so similar.
Managing other people's reactions to your trauma is exhausting; enlisting someone else to update folks your behalf is a small act of self-care, and an easy way to take people up on their “let me know if you need anything” offers.
Most of us think we're being careful during this pandemic... so when making plans, it's a good idea to discuss what "careful" actually means to you in practice.
Don’t try to set them up with the only other queer person you know, who they have absolutely nothing in common with.
If you're not Black but want to support BLM, having fraught conversations with your kinda (or definitely) racist loved ones will likely not be fun, but it’s a very worthy undertaking.
Simply ignoring it and pretending everything is cool won’t do either of you any favors, and is likely to cause more stress for everyone in the long run.