JEMIMA LOMAX-SAWYERS
Fast forward to 2016. Working full time, I’d stopped taking my medication, believing it was poisoned. After a lot of pressure from my treatment team and family, I began taking my medication again. The antipsychotics helped to lessen the paranoia, but my mood continued to deteriorate and I was hospitalised in August. ECT was started almost immediately. After a month, I was well enough to go back to work, assisted by an incredibly supportive boss and colleagues. I continued to have maintenance ECT until I moved to Dunedin for university."I’m hesitant to exclaim that this is it, that I will never get unwell again because I just don’t know. Maybe I will, and I have to be prepared for that. But I am hopeful that at least for the most part I can maybe do something with my life, other than just barely getting by."
I will say this: maybe it doesn’t have to be about how I ended up in this situation, but where I am going from here. Because I didn’t just win ‘Most Likely to go to Prison’ at school. I was also voted Most Likely to be Prime Minister. And the essence of that is the one I intend to have come true.
MARY O’HAGAN
"One of the awful things about being diagnosed with a mental illness as they call it, is that people don’t believe your perceptions, and they tend to think that you know, any anger or sadness or whatever you feel, is a marker of your illness, rather than a thing that comes from your core-self."
JAZZ THORNTON
The turning point however, was a conversation I had with my mentor. I was a crying mess and I remember her looking at me and going "Jazz, why are you crying?" and I said "I am just so tired of fighting." She then said "What do you think the definition of fighting is? I don't think you are fighting, you are just surviving… You need to learn how to fight and that's when the change you are longing to see will happen." I realised in that moment that if I had been surviving this whole time, and fighting could save my life, then I was ready to give fighting a go. I googled the definitions of fighting and surviving and I started to do a whole lot of practical things that in time, really did save my life. It was things like writing my core beliefs on one side of a piece of paper and then on the other writing things those closest to me had said or done that contradicted those beliefs, like saying "I'm proud of you" or "I love you" or the simple fact that they knew me inside and out and still chose to walk alongside me."I realised in that moment that if I had been surviving this whole time, and fighting could save my life, then I was ready to give fighting a go."
SOONG PHOON
I was really lucky, because my family and friends came to visit me every day. They were amazing. One friend wrote me a letter every single week. There were a certain number of visiting times a day, and one friend co-ordinated everyone, mapped out all my visits. When it was my birthday, they came into hospital, brought me gifts. I think that was important—to feel very loved is so important—but at the same time, you couldn’t totally process it because you’re so depressed.I know so many people have had bad experiences [with the mental health system], but I had a good experience. I’m lucky: They were just so dedicated to making me feel more human. One of my doctors was just the loveliest woman, and she was the only one who could really cheer me up a little. She used to come and talk to me for half an hour after her rounds finished at 9.30 each night. I had like 32 rounds of ECT. My doctor talked to the head of the clinic, and he was like, I think you should try her on ketamine—which was, at the time, pretty controversial. That worked, but I came down pretty fast. And after that, the doctor was like, I think maybe you’re just highly, highly anxious—let’s put you on valium and diazepam, and after that I was just so much better—with the ECT, the ketamine and that all in conjunction.I remember it was my birthday, and all my friends came round to my parents house, and had a couple of beers, and then we went to see The Wolf of Wall Street. That was like my ‘outing’. I really had such good friends. After that, I was discharged, I went back into the community.It’s been four years now. After a few months, I got a job in advertising. And it’s so hard not to talk about it—it’s like, part of your identity. You’ve been there for nine months. So I’d be like “I just got out of hospital, and I had ECT, and ketamine,” which is maybe not that normal. You don’t want to make people upset—like, "Oh I’m so sorry"—but at the same time that’s just where I was. It’s like going away on a trip. Sometimes I’m like, maybe this was my OE. But actually, I did learn a lot. I think there’s still a little bit of stigma—or there can be. Like when I was first out of hospital in 2013, it was like, should you tell your boss? Should you say you need to leave work early one day to see a therapist?It really is an illness—when you can’t move, because of the depression. It’s like something that chases you, and jumps on you and you just can’t get up. But sometimes now, still, I look and I’m like, hmm, might just have to move a bit faster otherwise that thing is gonna jump on me again. You don’t feel so good, so you need to do something. Go walking. Cooking is really good for me. Having friends and family to be accountable to is helpful. I found a really good therapist. I had family, really good friends. Maybe things like that sound basic, but I think, it’s always a constellation of things that mean you get sick in the first place. And so it’ll be a mix of things that help you get better.This series was made with help from Like Minds Like Mine and the Mental Health Foundation.Need to talk?"It’s always a constellation of things that mean you get sick in the first place. And so it’ll be a mix of things that help you get better."
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