WHAT MAKES A FLESHLIGHT
While my [sex doll] patent succeeds admirably in fulfilling the objects of that invention, it has several characteristics that prevent it from universal acceptance. When the torso mannequin is used in sperm banks, doctor's offices, and other public facilities, it is sometimes intimidating to the patient being treated or may have an adverse effect upon the patient's sexual desire and ability to deposit sperm. […] When the device of my patent is used in the home, or by those who find such a mannequin to be positive in nature, there is the concern that others will still find the object during a casual visit to the home.
The market, and we as a species, were primed for this thing to succeed. Hallie Lieberman, sex historian and author of Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy, told me that artificial vaginas and sleeves date as far back as the 1600s—the first being Japanese masturbators made from tortoiseshell and velvet, she said. Artificial vaginas were sold in the U.S. as early as the late 1800s, she said, and Doc Johnson debuted the "pocket pal" in the late 1970s. Pocket pals look a lot like Fleshlights without the hard case around them (therefore, like long fleshy sandworms), and the labias themselves are a lot more realistic-looking compared to Fleshlights' more smooth, almost cartoonish aesthetic.The need for sexual gratification is as present and as powerful in a man as it is in the stallion. But where the stallion has no ability to wait, relentlessly pursuing his desire until he is satisfied or restrained, man has the ability to control his desires through fantasy… That release has to be done in a responsible way or we risk our relationships, expose ourselves to disease, take a chance with unwanted pregnancy, or even, in extreme cases, break the law.
Since time immemorial, men have been fucking whatever they can get their hands on, whether it be rubber gloves, toiler paper rolls, couch cushions, fruit, teddy bears, etc. A story about a Redditor who jerked off into a coconut, then later had his penis covered by maggots (he did it multiple times with the same coconut), has become treasured Reddit lore. There are also communities committed to exploring upscale DIY masturbators by refashioning Pringles cans, sponges, and building a better Fleshlight.The Fleshlight arrived in a perfect pro-masturbation societal storm, Lieberman said: On the heels of the safe sex messaging of the 1980s AIDS crisis, in the midst of cultural landmarks like Seinfeld's 1992 episode "The Contest" which grappled with masturbation both male and female, and as the White House forced Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders to resign in 1994 for suggesting masturbation should be taught in school. In the 90s, masturbation, for better or worse, was discussed more openly than ever."Some Fleshlight designs actually depict women’s genitals beautifully, like a more commercialized version of a Georgia O’Keefe painting."
USER EXPERIENCES
HOW IT'S MADE
Micropores in the Fleshlight's PVC make their "skin" more realistic to the touch, but also can never be fully, truly sterilized once it's used. The top complaint I heard from all of the Fleshlight users I spoke to was that it's too hard to clean to use regularly."That's really gross to me that guys don't even rinse them out right after, now I'm thinking about it," Kaye said. "How hard it would be to clean…. If you were to let things dry in there, how disgusting that would be?""The hand is just way easier. Boner. Hand. Done. It’s that simple."
BECOMING A 'FLESHLIGHT GIRL'
Becoming a Fleshlight Girl is a career goal for many in the industry. Kaye, who led the selection of Fleshlight models, told me that three or four years ago the performer's popularity rank on Pornhub, for example, would have been a deciding factor. Now, she looks at a variety of metrics—social media following, engagement online, how entrepreneurial and invested they are in their own success.As secretive as the SuperSkin material recipe is, the process of molding a real vulva into SuperSkin is kept even more tight-lipped."I was laughing and talking a lot, and they told me to be careful, because your asshole actually moves a little bit when you laugh."
THE STIGMA
THE FUTURE OF FUCKTOYS
"There’s more of an acknowledgement that many people don’t fit into the gender binary and our toys should reflect that," Lieberman said. "I think that gender neutral sex toys are popular now because sex toys always reflect the culture of the time they’re created in; they reflect the current gender norms…. I think this shift in sex toy design to gender neutral reflects both a profit motive and a desire for inclusivity."For some companies, this might be an inclusivity effort, but for others, "it’s a response to the fact that inclusivity can be profitable," Comella said. "A business that de-genders vibrators or 'queers' sex toys also expands its potential market reach by eliminating labels that don’t have to be there in the first place."But for those who still want the visual illusion of another person, Fleshlight isn't going anywhere."That's the thing to always keep in mind with the adult industry: It's the business of fantasy," Stoya said. "It's like magic or professional wrestling. The audience who enjoys it comes in, ready to suspend their disbelief."Lieberman believes that lifelike sex toys impact our sexuality mostly for the good. If you want the feeling of fucking a penis or vagina or butthole without another person attached to it, that option is available to us, here in the future."I’m not sure that our society is that much different for having the Fleshlight in the world," Lieberman said. "But our society is better when more people are having orgasms, and since Fleshlights provide orgasms, then our society is a bit happier thanks to the device.""The idea that a person would only want to masturbate with a replica of genitals is kind of going away."