On a dance floor, I realized that I can use my mind not to punish myself, but to invite a special brand of silence to make room for celebration.
For those of us who prefer not to be the focus of attention, it used to be so much easier to hide.
Most people use a few well-practiced strategies for deflection.
If you feel like a fraud, you're probably better than average.
A number of factors—including anxiety and confidence—play a role.
Too much can bite you in the ass, psychologists say.
It was much more meaningful.
Now the people who doubted me ask how I did it.
"After dealing with the physical scars, I had to tackle the emotional ones."
A good deal of self reflection helps.
Also a life coach and an actor, for good measure.
The consequences of unpopularity can stay with you for life.