How to Have Good Shower Sex Without Slipping and Breaking Something
Jiz Lee, a performer and the marketing director for Pink & White Productions, said “bath mats are ideal” reducing slip. The cushioning of a rubber bath mat can also provide some relief to your knees if you’re giving head.
While we tend to think of shower sex as standing sex, it doesn’t have to be. You should avoid laying completely flat for safety reasons, but sitting in the tub or on a built-in bench or stool is a hot—and safer—option. “Benches or shower chairs can also be used to prop a leg up."
Lee cautioned against standing on the ledge of the bathtub, or holding onto the curtain rod. If your shower has a handrail, “Be sure it's bolted into something and use it only to balance, as they're not [usually] designed to [support] someone's full weight and may collapse."
Young suggests you “lean into the entire sensory experience of having sex not only with yourself, or your partners, but with the water.” If you have a removable shower head, you can experiment with hydro stimulation.
Don't use soap—or even water—as lube. Water can feel slippery, it can produce unpleasant friction between body parts. Water is never a good replacement for lube, and it can even dry out any natural lubrication your body produces, making penetrative sex potentially painful.
Lee recommended using silicone lube, which is waterproof, or a water-based gel, though they also noted that both can drip down and lead to slipping, so be careful. When using lube in the shower, they said, “avoid thrusting and big movements that might put you off your balance.”
Keeping it brief and uncomplicated is an especially good approach for those who have mobility issues, need extra time to relax or come, or can't find quite the right angle.