How to Have Good Shower Sex Without Slipping and Breaking Something

By Anna Pulley

Shower sex can be very hot. However… it can also be cold, awk, and even dangerous. Whether you have a huge luxurious shower or a tinier situation, here's a guide to getting it on safely in the shower, with help from adult film performers and directors who know firsthand.

Take precautions in order to keep your balance.

Jiz Lee, a performer and the marketing director for Pink & White Productions, said “bath mats are ideal” reducing slip. The cushioning of a rubber bath mat can also provide some relief to your knees if you’re giving head.

While we tend to think of shower sex as standing sex, it doesn’t have to be. You should avoid laying completely flat for safety reasons, but sitting in the tub or on a built-in bench or stool is a hot—and safer—option. “Benches or shower chairs can also be used to prop a leg up."

Sitting or reclining can also be a more relaxing way for people to engage in G-spot play or to ejaculate, said Madison Young, an adult film performer, director, as it’s an easier position to maintain than standing.

Lee cautioned against standing on the ledge of the bathtub, or holding onto the curtain rod. If your shower has a handrail, “Be sure it's bolted into something and use it only to balance, as they're not [usually] designed to [support] someone's full weight and may collapse."

Be sure to position the water stream away from your face—you might have to experiment with different positions if one or both of you is getting a mouthful (or eyeful) of water. Whenever you adjust positions, make sure you feel steady and stable.

Use the shower head—and the water itself—to your advantage.

Young suggests you “lean into the entire sensory experience of having sex not only with yourself, or your partners, but with the water.” If you have a removable shower head, you can experiment with hydro stimulation.

If your shower head isn’t detachable, you can also try sitting in the tub, scooting your legs up the wall, and positioning the bath faucet either over your genitals, perineum, or anus. Just be careful to get the temperature where you like it first.

“Playing with colder water temperatures can be exhilarating. But the other end of that nob can be too hot, especially for delicate body parts, so make sure you know your way around your H/C dial and test it a few seconds before making changes.”

-Jiz Lee

Don't use soap—or even water—as lube. Water can feel slippery, it can produce unpleasant friction between body parts. Water is never a good replacement for lube, and it can even dry out any natural lubrication your body produces, making penetrative sex potentially painful.

Lee recommended using silicone lube, which is waterproof, or a water-based gel, though they also noted that both can drip down and lead to slipping, so be careful. When using lube in the shower, they said, “avoid thrusting and big movements that might put you off your balance.”

Remember, sometimes the best shower sex is just foreplay.

Young said that hooking up in the shower is particularly good when it's a “slow and seductive” experience. She also pointed out that there’s so much more you can do besides penetration.

Keeping it brief and uncomplicated is an especially good approach for those who have mobility issues, need extra time to relax or come, or can't find quite the right angle.

You don't have to feel pressure to make it all happen right then and there, as Lee said: You can always “shower together to get clean, get a little dirty—and then grab your towels and take it to the bedroom.”

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