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Mom: Funny, humorous guy. Educated. Easy-going. Likes to watch movies, read books. Jewish.
Me: This is a Jewish site. They're all going to be Jewish. Is that it?
Mom: Oh, and from a good family.
Me: From a good family? What does that mean?
Mom: You know, like he comes from a good foundation. Good base. From the base you can tell how the person will run his life.
Me: OK, sure.
Mom: And eats healthy.
Me: He has to eat healthy?
Mom: Yeah. Good nutrition.
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Mom: [Scanning the profile] UCLA, that's good. Social worker? Let me see his picture. This is him?
Me: Yeah.
Mom: Oh. He's handsome.
Me: I don't think he's handsome.
Mom: What, why?
Me: No, not my type. Would you message his mom to try and set me up with him?
Mom: Yeah.
Me: Here's the next profile. Jeremy.
Mom: That guy? He's bald already?
Me: I think he's purposely bald.
Mom: Yeah, maybe you'll like this guy.
Me: You think I would like this guy?
Mom: Yeah.I didn't.Mom: Who is this guy?
Me: Nikolas.
Mom: He's not going to want you. Look at him.
Me: What does that mean?
Mom: He probably wants those model ones. Be realistic. He's looking good.
Me: You think I like this guy? I would never date this guy.
Mom: Oh, come on! Look at his muscles. I would date him.
Me: So you don't think he'd like me?
Mom: No. He's the type that likes slim, tall, blonde girls.To summarize, the one person she would not set me up with is Nikolas, and it was because she didn't think he would like me.I found it interesting that my mother cited what are widely considered non-Jewish features as the kind she thought Nikolas would want in a woman: tall, thin, and blonde. Most of the Jewish women I have encountered in my life have been some combination of dark-haired, short, and wide-hipped. My mom had basically told me that Nikolas desires what a lot of younger Jewish men desire: a non-Jewish woman. I wondered if other JMom users had a similar experience. As badly as some mom's want their sons to find a Jewish girl, a lot of the single Jewish men are not ready to let go of that shiksa fantasy.
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Me: You think I would date him?
Mom: He's an attorney.
Me: See, that's not attractive to me. I tend to not really like the types that are in business, or law, or anything like that.
Mom: Yeah, of course, what do you want? The type who will have no money? Alison. You're not realistic. You be the artist and someone else will bring the bread and butter. OK? You don't need another artist. Two artists?
Me: If we both make money doing it, why would you be against that?
Mom: You live in la-la land, you know that?
Me: Why is that "la-la land"?
Mom: You need to find a guy that will give you stability.
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