With the exception of the occasional inconsiderate asshole, most people know how to behave at the shops, the hairdressers or when they're catching an Uber. They know not to skip the queue, to tip and not to barf all over the backseat. But a lot of people don't know how you're supposed to behave when you visit a sex worker, or when you're drunkenly trying to stay upright in a chair while a stripper grinds on your lap.
Considering the men and women who work in the sex industry offer up their bodies, it's only fair that you try and be polite and considerate. But what are the dos and don'ts? Can you ask a sex worker to lower the going rate for a blowjob because you're such a loyal customer? And exactly how handsy can you get when you have a half-naked stripper grinding on your lap?I asked a Dutch escort, a prostitute, and two strippers what you should and shouldn't do when you are enjoying their services.As a male stripper, after the show people often say: "Hey, we didn't even get to see your dick!" But the whole point of a striptease is seduction – leaving the most exciting parts to the imagination. I think that an entertaining show is more important, but if you just want to see my dick then I'll do a lap fully naked and then immediately put my clothes back on.And don't book me to embarrass someone else. I often get booked as a surprise for women that don't know how to deal with a striptease. They'll be sitting there looking very uncomfortable, and holding their hands up in the air. You can tell by the look on their face that they don't enjoy it. And that, of course, is exactly why her friends booked me in the first place – because it's funny to see the birthday girl get embarrassed by a half-naked, dancing guy. The thing is that I do try my absolute best to make her feel comfortable. And look, I'll do my whole routine and all, but it's just a lot more fun to dance for someone, who is smiling and impatiently waiting for you to get closer.
Kevin Talle, 35 years old, has been working as a stripper for 10 years
Advertisement
The most important thing is that you join in and hold me or touch me when I signal you to. But there is definitely a line. The other day I was performing for a group of older ladies. The lady in the chair must have been in her late sixties. She was brimming with enthusiasm throughout the act, and near the end I was standing before her smiling face with nothing but a little flag covering my penis. In her excitement, she grabbed my dick and yanked it really hard. It hurt like hell. The whole group was laughing, and after taking a few deep breaths I laughed as well, but I still wonder what the hell she was thinking.
Pweeeep!!! Illustrations by Ben van Brummelen
Liv, 24, high-class escort with Vialet EscortService
Advertisement
Besides that, one of the most important rules is wearing a condom. It's unbelievable how many guys try to bend the rules on that. "I'm really clean, I got tested recently," they'll say. Come on. It ruins the mood and besides, you knew in advance that safe sex is one of the conditions when you book me. The same goes for asking for my contact details. "Come on, you can tell me your real name, can't you? Don't you have a mobile number so I can reach you directly?" No. Being an escort comes with so many risks, so we all value our privacy. Usually they do give me their own business card, in case I want to call them. I always take it and then throw it in the trash as soon as they're gone.
Michele, 34, has been working as a stripper for 14 years
Advertisement