Hey Ron! - Let's Address This

I’m not big on tattletales. If someone has a problem with another person he should address them by saying, “This is my problem. This is what I like or don’t like.” You don’t need to go to a higher authority to hash out your grievances. You don’t need to go to daddy for his approval or disapproval.

I want to say this to men, specifically: If you have an issue with another man, grow a pair and talk to him about it. I don’t want to hear, “Well I didn’t want any problems, so I talked to someone else first.” If you didn’t want any problems, you wouldn’t have brought it up, you would’ve left it alone.

The only reason I can see for someone talking to a third party about a problem they have with me is fear, which is ridiculous. I'm no threat. No man should be afraid to address another man. We both stand up to pee. We can even talk about our issues while standing up and peeing at the urinal. I don’t care.

A lot of times these backroom whisperings are about stupid, inconsequential things. Things like, “Hey Ron, I saw your girl get in a car with some guy.” OK, what else did you see? “That’s it.” OK, so why are you telling me? I don’t understand. Did something else happen in between? Were they hugging or kissing? Or did she just get a ride with someone? If that's all that happened, then don’t tell me. I don’t need any extras in my mind making me think something is wrong.

If you see something that is legitimately suspicious then tell, but do it in front of US. Or go to her and say, “Listen, I saw you get in the car with some dude. Ron is my boy, so before I say anything, do you have anything you want to tell me?" If she gets all stinky about it, then she may have something to hide. Then you can come to me and say, “I saw this and I’m bringing a witness and this is what we saw.” And then I have something to act on.

Bottom line: Come to me and address your problem. Or go to that person and address it. I’m a man. You're a man. Let’s address this.