Hard to Say
Managing other people's reactions to your trauma is exhausting; enlisting someone else to update folks your behalf is a small act of self-care, and an easy way to take people up on their “let me know if you need anything” offers.
Most of us think we're being careful during this pandemic... so when making plans, it's a good idea to discuss what "careful" actually means to you in practice.
Don’t try to set them up with the only other queer person you know, who they have absolutely nothing in common with.
If you're not Black but want to support BLM, having fraught conversations with your kinda (or definitely) racist loved ones will likely not be fun, but it’s a very worthy undertaking.
It's difficult to believe that people are insisting it's fine to attend their in-person celebration because "everyone will be wearing masks"—and to talk to them about why you won't be there.
With all this time to talk and life essentially on hold, big conversations can bring extra pressure.
There’s no time like a crisis to learn to trust yourself, listen to your own needs, and set boundaries with kindness and confidence.
It's time for roommates and partners to stop pretending that proceeding germily through life without taking any precautions is totally cool and fine.
If your pal is railing about a conflict without seeming to grasp that they're at fault for it, here's what to say instead of, "Mm, yeah... you're so right..."
Even if your friend's partner is the worst and they can definitely do better, maybe don't say that to them verbatim.
Seeking professional help with relationship issues isn't just for married couples—so if you think it could be right for you and your partner, here's how to talk about it.