Jeff Leavell

Jeff Leavell is a writer living in Los Angeles and Berlin. He writes about queer culture, politics and nightlife. His book, Accidental Warlocks, is available on amazon.com. You can find him at his website, jeffleavell.com, or on Instagram.

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The Heartbreaking Instagram Where People Remember Loved Ones Who Died of AIDS

"Looking at the photos, I felt like the whole world was falling down around me. I had an overwhelming feeling of loss and devastation, and had to go to the bathroom so that no one would see me crying."
Jeff Leavell
10.17.18
LGBTQ

My Search for Meaning After the Death of My Ex-Boyfriend

Though Jon and I were no longer in the same three-way relationship, we still lived together, and his loss has caused me indescribable pain.
Jeff Leavell
5.3.18
LGBTQ

An Ode to Craigslist Hookups

It's been a long time since I used Craigslist to find sex, but I'm still saddened by the death of its personals section.
Jeff Leavell
4.9.18
LGBTQ

How Anonymous Sex with Strangers Helped Me Find My Way in a New City

When I first moved to LA, the loneliness was overwhelming. Cruising changed everything.
Jeff Leavell
2.28.18
LGBTQ

'Dragula' Is Loud, Weird, and Pisses on Heteronormativity

On the filthiest drag competition online, contestants chug blood and pummel one another in a thunderdome. And that, in a way, is the future of queer politics.
Jeff Leavell
1.18.18
LGBTQ

When Toxic Masculinity Infects Our Queer Spaces, We All Lose

I made a meme about how annoying "masc" gay parties are. But the response it got said more about the gay community than my joke ever could.
Jeff Leavell
1.10.18
LGBTQ

The Freedom and Beauty I Found Cruising for Sex

Throughout my life, I've found moments of serendipity, romance, and connection while cruising that will stay with me forever.
Jeff Leavell
12.27.17
LGBTQ

It’s Time to Stop Labeling Our Sexuality

In the queer community, it's all too easy to box ourselves in with labels like "daddy" and "boy." But if we don't break those stereotypes down, we'll never move forward.
Jeff Leavell
12.8.17
LGBTQ

The Underground Queer Nightlife Scene Sets the Bar for Tolerance

Parties like Lights Down Low in LA or Gegen in Berlin are perhaps where I'm the happiest—places where differences among us are nearly erased, and reality becomes what you make of it.
Jeff Leavell
11.16.17
LGBTQ

How I Make My Mixed HIV Status Relationship Work

I'm HIV positive, but my partner is not. And though science has rendered that difference medically negligible, it's hard to shed decades of stigma overnight.
Jeff Leavell
10.14.17
LGBTQ

How I Make My Ultra-Long-Distance Relationship Work

People are quick to foreclose possibilities in life. But I won't let an obstacle like distance keep me from the man I'm falling in love with.
Jeff Leavell
9.22.17
LGBTQ

The Compassion I Feel for My Drugged-Out Gay Bar Patrons

I've seen drugs ruin lives working the door of an LA gay bar. But as a former addict, I know that sobriety only comes from within—and that we can't judge others, no matter what.
Jeff Leavell
9.1.17
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