personal essay


Uncontrollable Bleeding: A Brain Surgeon's Nightmare

When an artery in someone's head bursts, there's very little that can prepare you.


The Guilt of the Oldest Brother

I couldn’t protect my brothers from my dad, so what good was I?


The Man Who Taught Me How to Be Gay

I thought escorting would buy me freedom. But it was one of my clients who taught me that I already had all the freedom in the world.


How I Almost Died Pretending to Be a Vegetarian in College

I didn't think of myself as a pretend vegetarian lying to my friends. I told myself that I was just a vegetarian who kept having meat accidents with my mouth.


The Night I Killed a Man

​Sitting here in this dark, cramped cage, unable to sleep, haunted by these reminders of what brought me here, I can't help but hate myself for what I did.


My Landlord Mom Refuses to Cash in on San Francisco's Insane Housing Market

In San Francisco's shitstorm of a housing market, the landlords who purchased homes before prices exploded now have the opportunity to cash in.


What It's Like to Almost Die in a Car Crash

"I used to imagine how I'd win street fights in my head, or how I'd never get hurt from drunkenly climbing that scaffolding, but the crash changed all that."


The Harsh Reality of Being Broke

Here's a brief list of things that I'm finding impossible right now: looking good, having sex, maintaining friendships, having decent self-esteem, and having hope for the future.


What It’s Like to Be the Other Guy in an Open Marriage

I didn't want to be a homewrecker. But that's how a lot of people see it.


My Father's Journey Around the World with Stolen Plane Tickets

After a chance encounter with a Black Panther, my father embarked on the adventure of his life—an adventure that led him as if by fate to my mother.


An Open Letter to My Vagina: Sex, Pain, and Vaginismus

Overcoming the condition that makes sex as painful as the very first time, every single time.


Losing My Shit: What It Feels Like to Deal with IBS

Irritable Bowel Syndrome is the medical equivalent of an unlikeable extended family member. It isn't life-threatening, but it's annoying as hell and you can't really get rid of it.