This Is How We Do It
“I don’t get any pain with oral sex. That just feels amazing. But I still can’t feel it sometimes because of numbness issues.”
“I just didn’t give enough of a shit about my symptoms to stop having sex the way I wanted to.”
“When I orgasm, it feels like somebody’s sitting on my chest.”
“The UTIs were hard to troubleshoot—I developed rituals like washing myself off immediately after sex.”
“I take my hearing aid out during sex, so I don’t know when I’m being loud.”
"I stay away from giving oral sex if the tremors in my mouth are really bad, because that could lead to some unfortunate teeth issues."
"I temporarily lose awareness, stare off, and make small involuntary gestures or motions—I usually turn my head to the left."